P. Dot Dot Dot

Confidence, the elusive confidence. The older I get the more I feel how little I know and how little I understand. I keep on thinking that soon, next month, next year I will be slimmer, taller (maybe not but would be nice), less anxious, wiser, with a cooler job. I always think that confidence will be something I will gain in the future. Tomorrow will be the day I will really like myself. I never look back at achievements or "pat myself on the back", not in a smug oh I am so good way, but in a "stop being so hard on yourself every second way". 

I think HK adds a little to my anxiety I always feel like I can be doing more, better, bigger, faster. So I am trying to learn to like just NOW. To stop always running ahead, learning to slow down. Confidence is about liking yourself right this second, and that's what I try to remind myself all the time! Some days are better than others, but I will get there one day :)

The outfit: with Polka dots everywhere this season from Marc Jacobs to Stella McCartney, I thought it was time to take out my old ZARA skirt and mix it up. The look I had in mind was Gossip Girl mixed with utilitarian/safari chic: Blair Waldorf meets Baroness von Blixen. Skirt Zara, shirt Massimo Dutti, clutch very used and abused Mulberry, bracelet lazy DIY - take a ZARA belt and place it around your wrist (easy and quick), hat PANAMA, snakeskin shoes Uterque (beautiful but give you vicious blisters). 

Happy Mid-Autumn Festival to all my Chinese readers! Hope you are having a big feast with your family and lighting some pretty lanterns. Let me know if you need a good personal trainer after all these mooncakes! (If I eat one more mooncake I will give birth to an egg yolk).


  1. You look so cute, so lady-like:) Love the combination of the blouse with the skirt. Very chic xxx

  2. I miss mooncake :(

    On a happier note, I can honestly say I've never seen a white and black polka dot skirt on anyone except in pictures from the 70s and I have to say - I LOVE IT. I want to make one for myself now! ^_^

    I also really like the chain bracelet and how that hat seems to make an appearance in many of your posts :)


  3. hey girly, I think ombre hair would really fit you! jumping is really easy though.. you just gotta not be afraid to fall.. but you won´t fall. so that´s ok. Think of like floating into heaven when you jump and let go of everything.

  4. oooh i am loving this look! the polka dots contrast well with the utilitarian style blouse and ultra cool androgynous hat + the sexy textured black heels. fantastico!
    seriously...a "little" thing called confidence. It's a lifelong journey, so it seems, to find it dammit! After more experiences and a good attitude, you'll feel it.
    I realized that whenever I feel insecure (which lately is more days than not) it's usually b/c I feel like I haven't done enough and sort of whisked past something without giving it much thought---the lack of owning my feelings and experiences so to speak. Anywho! keep at it b/c you definitely are a woman with a good head on her shoulders, and you'll come out a winner in the end!
    Happy full moon!! yummm mooncakes :D
    xoxo Diana

  5. This outfit is so lovely! I love dots. :)


    ~let's follow each other? ^^

  6. Gorgeous outfit! Love the simple but chic color palette, love the hat! Great blog!! Would you like to follow each other?


  7. wow! love your shoes and this white bag!! you look stunning! thank you so much for visit me:)

  8. Cute styling! Especially love the fedora and skirt. I'm so happy you stopped by my blog or I wouldn't have been able to find your awesome blog. Would love it if we could follow each other. =)

    xoxo (hugs & kisses till next time)

  9. This is such a chic outfit! I really do love everything about it. It's so nice to be able to pull out a piece of clothing you haven't worn in a while and be able to style it beautifully :D

  10. re: I´m in the same opinion as you on the roitfeld- selezneva-russian vogue case.
    Really like this outfit, the skirt is classy yet playful.

  11. Your skirt is soo cute!



  12. You look really elegant and stylish! I like how you paired your polka dot skirt with the irt and your sandals are very feminine:)
    I liked a lot your text as well:)

    Following you now on Bloglovin and Google, I would love it if you followed me back!

    Stories and Sequins

  13. Que estilo y personalidad tienes wow! de verdad me siento honrada de que te guste mi blog :) gracias por tu comentario. xx

  14. Very well put- I think confidence also comes from being content with what you already have than always lusting for the what ifs.


  15. LOVVVEEE THIS LOOK! Esp. your polka dot skirt! Something tells me I might be behaving a lil' blonde but I can't find your email address!! : ( I wanted to ask you a lil' something.
    Please send me a quick mess to my email so I can respond! (cultfriday@gmail.com)

    Following you from Jamaica:


  16. Connecting the Dots: Style And Bubble Tea! If you stop in Berlin, don't miss the wonderful Bubble Tea Shop called... And Dots!


    The drinks are just amazing, the place is terrific. I stayed two months in Berlin this summer and was a regular customer. Back to Holland now, and I WANT AN And Dots home!